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Monday, November 20, 2006

a wedding celebration

Oh ya, before i begin... Recently, I was questioned by a sis:
'How did you know that he was the one for you?'

'I don't. I don't know for sure'

Allahua'lam. I just know he was the right one for me at that moment, when I was ready to get married. And alhamdulillah, we're still together.

Just because you're in love setengah gila.. and oh-so-sure he is the one, does not guarantee a happy marriage. We've heard it before kan? So? If you think there is a 'perfect' man waiting for you, you've been watching too much movies. There isn't any 'perfect man', waiting for you. With every partner, comes the pleasures and the challenges. Hey, this is life on earth - what did you expect? Eternal bliss is only in Heaven.

Ok, ok.. this is not suppose to be a membebel post. It's a post to celebrate the union of my dear sis, siti & hafizan on 17th Nov 2006!!!! yeah yeah!! weeeeweet!

(sorry this post came a bit late.. I was either too busy/tired/sleepy/lazy,
or all of the above.)

May both of you be blessed with iman, love, understanding, strength and patience, throughout.
AND babies.
Ameen.



21 comments:

Anonymous said...

Congrats and Allah's blessing to the lovely couple.

I agree wholeheartedly with you sis. When I met my wife, I just knew, somehow, that she is the one for me and Alhamdulillah we are still together (16 years come 20th Dec). May all of us be blessed to find eternal bliss when we leave this temporal place on earth, InsyaAllah.

Anonymous said...

Bloss

The pics look great!

Still, what can seem more pretty and beautiful other than our darling sis who just got hitched!? heheh .. Our darling sis Mariam looks gorgeous!

Azer Mantessa said...

congratulations to the couple.

my instinct told me she is the one for me ... 23 years of friendship and 19 years of marriage.

Kak Teh said...

selamat pengantin baru semoga bahagia ke anak cucu!!
u know, when i first set eyes on my husband, my heart missed a beat and I just knew that he was the one for me. I told my friend immediately after that. Next month is our 27th anniversary! Alhamdulillah.

Freak and Geek said...

such a beautiful wedding. congrats to the couple.

thanks, i heart u. *wink*

Lady_A said...

congrats to the couple. the bride is sooo sweet! jambu!

madame blossom said...

yara,
happy 16th anniversary! (way advance.. =D) semuga terus berkekalan.

tedd,
sure, she is gorgeous. untung husband dia.. :)

azer,
wow!! did u know her while u were very VERY young?

kak teh!
masyaAllah! happy 27th anniversary!! (way in advance too!)

FG,
*wink*

ann,
ah ah, especially in red!

Azer Mantessa said...

errr, what i mean is, 19 years of marriage is also a friendship + 4 years as friends ... erks.

sowwie

newayz, one day ... back in ontario when we were finished class, as i have sumthing to do, did ask her to wait for me ( i was just joking) ... after the work was done, there she was ... waiting there for me ... so ... :-)
my instinct told be ... this is it
:-)

that a pretty girl really dun mind waiting for an ugly guy like me ... was really swell ... hehe

Sahalfikri said...

salam.. thought like knowing ur sis hubby la.. too familiar tp tak pasti katne jumpa.

btw ur intro for the entry has attracted my soul.. coz i met a guy two days before saying this, "kekadang kita kata nak kahwin umur 30 la etc, but then tetiba je kita kahwin umur 24. Tahu tak kenapa? Bukan sebab kita tak pegang janji tapi sebab dah sampai seru. Kita takkan tahu sebab DIA yang tentukan. Kekadang tu kita kenalan pompuan pun takde tetiba je plak dikenalkan ngan sorang tu then kahwin."

hmm i was thinking that i'm going to have the most suitable girl in my life to be my wife n expecting it to be in my 30-year-old days. but after all, yup u r rite, nobody is perfect n let the seru comes..

madame blossom said...

azer,

=D lerrr... misunderstanding. ooooooh.. I was already lost, trying to guess ur age.. haha.
Alhamdulillah for a pretty wife.

sahalfikri,
maybe kot u kenal.. cuba sebut nama dia 10 kali.

:) you're right about the jodoh thing. Kita merancang or mengelak, Allah SWT menentukan.
May you meet someone with the 4 recommended qualities. Ameen.

Anonymous said...

What the many stupid comments by a fourth class mentality of Malaysia ministers! Instead all this BN donkeys and monkeys as well as parrots should be grateful to us as voters to put them there in the first place.

They are matured politicians but speak like 12 years old kids - how can this happened - are they being too free for social work? Too busy to grasp 'people money' until don't know how to think properly.

Their all childish humour is the downfall of this country. Those who have voted them are the most stupid being earth ever breed.

From those speeches by those so-called politicians who claim to work for those stupid people who voted them, it is very clear that those politicians join politics just to make money out of corruptions. Their speeches already justify that and it cannot be deny.

No surprising! I know of several ministers who are just into politics for the money and glory. It is time for all of us to rise up to the occasion and show them what people power is all about.

And the disgusting part is, they show to the public that they are really doing their jobs by inviting the press to publicize whatever small things which they do for the community, such as planting a small tree or operate a bulldozer by moving it a few feet.

Those who voted BN, where is your government during oil hike when you need them? Your BN advice is eat less and enjoy less. Petronas is making profits. Where is the money? Take a look at the leaders, big cars, big condos, big feasts and big spending.

Cabinet et al……….a bunch of hypocrites. To those who tell us to 'change our lifestyles', please walk the talk, get rid of the BMWs, Mercedes, Perdanas, and get on the buses, commuters and LRTs, for the rest of your natural life!

If you live in the kampung with no public transport, take the bicycle or walk! Otherwise, you have no moral authority to tell normal citizens how to live their lives! So talk to the hand because the ears are not listening!

As for Najib, how about telling your family to take the public transport for a month? Changes start from the top. Show us that you fellows can do it and not burn more holes in the national budget. Stop the tradition of utilising every cent of money available on unnecessary items.

Be thankful for what we had done - vote them again for greater corruption and higher fuel price. It is what we want - that is what we get!

3 words for the BN government - 'disgrace disgrace and disgrace'. 3 words for the BN voters - 'shame, shame and shame'.

In Europe, it would not take long for the people to topple the government, e.g. France. What make the ruling party so special that their interests are more important that the people of Malaysia?

Majority of the population of registered voters don't belong to any political party. Political party got no say that they represent their ethnic groups. Only handful are members and they claim that 100 percent or 90 percent has fully agreed BN plans.

As you can clearly see and if I can say so myself, majority of Malaysians want change! They are sick and tired of ministers and government officials paying lip service to their people and the respective constituents.

Those who speak out for a fairer political environment and justice in the best interest of Malaysia and its ordinary people are real courage people.

Anonymous said...

miya




These are the Pak Lah achievements:

1. He has TALKED against fighting corruption.

2. He has TALKED against "Little Napoleons".

3. He has TALKED for promoting inter-racial/religious harmony.

4. He has TALKED in favour of good governance, integrity and transparency.

5. He has TALKED, TALKED and TALKED.

He needs five years to TALK before he starts to WALK. So just be patient.

Anonymous said...

The Malaysia society information is very tight-grabbed by the malay-led government. The privileged educated malays stuck to their racial pride and hardest defends their causes (entitlements).

The society mentality is influenced by the politically minds (say, Umno), and those have seen the world and read widely dare not say the truth. All these contributed to a trouble society sentiment and seem calm at the surface.

Yes, a lot of people wanted to reply to this and challenge what I said but Malaysia is suppose to be a free country right? Free to say what I want, right? I am telling the truth that everyone knows but dare not say it out loud in the open.

My colleague who is white Caucasian and is 65 years old, wanted to stay in this country under "Malaysia, my second home". He earned 20 times the salary of the same job other Malaysian held. He said Malaysia is heaven.

I said to him that if he get the same salary as Malaysian and get the discrimination as second or third class citizen, he would change his mind eventually.

Anyway, since I am an outsider I see this as unfair but what am I going to do, nothing - I am going to earn as much as I can from the fat cheque this Malaysia government give to me. When my time is up……….I will say goodbye and thank you.

This comment implies that the freedom of speech is limited here in Malaysia.

Anonymous said...

To parody a line from the song, Malaysia politicians, civil servants and those in authority are killing this country softly with their corruption.

Platitudes and promises aside, it is no joke that the level of systemic corruption in our country has gone from bad to worse. Leaders can choose to ignore it and close an eye, but the truth is everywhere we turn we see the destructive traces of corruption.

Services and infrastructure are breaking down and left unattended, trucks and buses are spewing out excessive exhaust smoke and the haze is now here every year. Road accidents are up due to unqualified drivers, and vehicles being let onto the roads in a less-than-roadworthy condition.

How is all this due to corruption? When tenders are bypassed. When a phone call is made to influence a decision. When 'under-the-table' money is passed to decision makers. When the most proficient and efficient contractor is sidestepped for the one with better 'offerings'.

This is how we get flyovers deemed unsafe, hospitals with fungus, parks turned into housing developments, roads not made to specifications, and trees felled without permission.

This is why we have increasing health costs, highway concessionaires that lose toll collections, and disappearing green lungs. All because of corruption.

Integrity is what you are when no one is looking. Malaysians need to know the effects of what they do. Things are a-changing there and all of sudden there is law and order.

Maybe we in Malaysia won't shoot our corrupt leaders and civil servants but let us do the minimum by exposing them and weeding them out of their positions.

Enough of mere talk.

madame blossom said...

wow..this is weird. apa hal ni? blogger bug? bila masa pulak siti's wedding jadi a malaysian political issue ni?

interesting though..

Anonymous said...

Dear Malaysians, our politicians practise racialism and our main news media do not publish the majority non-malays sentiments and feelings. But judging from the outburst of frustration and anger expressed by readers in the forum, I shudder to think of the future of Malaysia. We are sitting on a time bomb.

At the moment, there are still some unseen forces binding all the various races together in Malaysia. However, once these "forces" are gone, our country would fell like former Yugoslavia and other racially torn countries.

I do not agree with our present government's racial policy, neither do I agree with those highly racial remarks in the forum. I believe not all Malaysians are racialist in nature, we are just being stuck with the present system with the racialist politicians who cared for their own interest. The politicians are the main culprits who always "champion" for their own race's interest.

My father's neighbour is a malay family and they are friendlier to my father than to their malay neighbour next door. I also have a malay friend who, after staying in a malay community for years, said that if he were to move out, he would prefer to move to a mixed community area.

I could only pray for the future of our country. I pray for a change of our present government so that the present "policy" could be reversed and all Malaysians live in harmony. It is no use telling the world how well the various races live together in harmony superficially, while deep inside hatred and anger is building up.

The sometimes very strong and rabid rage opinions given are at both frightening and disappointing. We seem to have failed as a nation when it comes to inter-ethnic unity. I just hope our leaders take heed of this.

Refer some comment to above, do you think they will ever learn? They even have the "onion face" to tell the world that we are the best model of multiracial country, uh!

Those politicians are only fooling the innocents, they say one thing but act the other. Come next year they will sing another tune to please the Chinese, Indians, you know why? Because it is time to fish some votes then! How pathetic.

The malays should be aware that once again the "elite malays" is using the poor malays to rob from others. If Umno take over Penang, it is the elite Khairy who will rob from the Penang people, are the poor malays to gain anything?

Already corruption is all the way to the highest level, but the common malay people just sit and keep quiet waiting for someone else like DAP to voice out!

Anonymous said...

Practice true meritocracy no doubt will change everything. But that problem in our Malaysia society has rooted strongly, after years of "divide and conquer" by the "cunning" government. They do whatever they can, without thinking the effects in the future at all, as long as they remain as the ruling government.

So that is who and what we are today; no right and freedom of speech, identifying each other according to religions and races, deterioration of universities standards, certain group gets priority in everything they do, brain drain, and basically anything you can think of.

It is sad that after almost 50 years, we may have improve physically but mentally, it is at least the same 50 years ago or even worse. If this structure of governance continues, we will be just like Indonesia soon.

Are the politicians bold enough to make radical changes? Can they not think about their own benefits? Can they do it without the word "religions and races" in their mind, but for Malaysians as a whole?

All these have to start at the very basic level, primary or even nursery. I would suggest that they remove NEP with immediate effect and stop living in a fantasy world that malays need to be protected until they are ready to face the world. They won't be ready forever if you protect them and keep them within your fingers! There are plenty of analogies and I don't think it is necessary to say them here.

Go back to the root of problems and everything will be better. The cause is obvious!

Anonymous said...

It is true that in the face of competition especially global, our corporations can thrive only when run efficiently by the brightest and the best.

Anyone on the street can dissect clearly that our government's current scholarship system is flawed. Clearly not everyone who gets it deserves it but what make it worse is that it's given to people who are not returning the good deed.

The theory is simple. If one knows that he will get what he wants handed on a platter, one will never need to work as hard as his other counterparts. Hence, the reason why bumis fail to excel in their studies.

We live in a country where education is for the rich and influential. Money and contacts are the major key players in determining our educational regime. The poor become poorer and the rich become richer. Scholarships handed out to the rich. But when we seek other educational opportunities we are reprimanded.

We live in a nation that throws out educated, experienced and loyal teachers to be replaced by ones that only have the right political connections. Our notion of education is not to educate the young to think critically, or to be constructive and mature.

In the true sense of the word as articulated by the nation's founding fathers, the Malaysian agenda should always be the national agenda, not the Malay, Indian or Chinese agenda, whatever.

But sadly, over the years since independence in 1957, this major premise has been hijacked with push giving way to shove after the May 13 riots. Since then, over a period of 36 years, the Umno elite in power have been systematically been using the zero-sum game theory to brainwash the malay mind of whatever commitment it still has towards multi-racialism.

It is evident their goal is to revert back to the status of Tanah Melayu even if this were to make the country slide backwards to the status of countries like Zimbabwe or Bangladesh. The present political struggle between Umno and PAS with Islam as its main focus has made the situation even worse.

Now more and more malays are coming up openly to reject the Malaysian multi-racial society. The time will come when the word Malaysian will be deemed seditious and anti-national just like the slogan 'Malaysian Malaysia'.

I don't see a Malaysia that I would want to be a part of. A Malaysia that has stopped caring. A country that has fallen prey to the profit motif. To power. I pray that Malaysians will wake up and realise what a mirage our 'advancement' has been.

Anonymous said...

With regards to the space program, that one is a total bullshit. They wasted money like crazy and claimed Malaysia able to send people like to moon.

The most pathetic part of that is, they have to be able to determine the direction to pray from a space station. That is so pathetic and I laughed so hard at it, now that the so-called Ustaz are trying to study orbit mechanics. It is a stupid plan.

I don't care how much 'leadership' one have but coming up with such a stupid plan and claim it to be space program will officially submit Malaysia to be a laughing stock in the scientific community of the world.

Anonymous said...

Malaysia has a bunch of donkeys (not monkeys) who try very hard to run the nation. There are hidden agendas as to why they need to have a sporting complex in a foreign country to develop sports.

Australia which boasts of sporting powers, does not have any training facility anywhere in the world. It is the dedication of its athletes and avid sponsors that provide avenues for high achievements. Not the cold weather.

I find that most Malaysian sportsmen do not continue to excel once they have achieved their goals. They only live on past glories.

Malaysia should promote sports that are suitable for its environment. The constant hot weather is ideal for water-sports. Yet how many proper swimming pools are there in its major cities and towns? Batu Pahat, Muar, Johor Bahru etc, all have populations in excess of 300000 and still do not have a single swimming pool of significant size for training.

That is where the money should go and not to some foreign land. They should try to train divers, swimmers, waterpolo players, etc. They can train 365 days a year and the pools need not be heated too.

Sports are non-productive commodities and do not give any economic impact to any nation. It is like mahjong, purely recreational. What is the point of having quality sport personnel when they have backward educational systems that are only recognised by Indonesia. Abdullah and Najib, think about it!

The government must be crazy in wanting to establish a RM490 million sports academy in Britain. Crazy because such an academy will not benefit anybody except the officials at the Ministry of Youth and Sports.

It would be better if such money is to be used to help the needy and the poor in our country. Take the Iban community in Sarawak for example. The Ibans, who form about one-third of Sarawak population of 2.2 million, have been reported to be the poorest in the country.

Even the United Nations in its reports, has acknowledged that the Ibans are among the poorest in the world.

Like previous plans, the 9th Malaysia Plan has no concrete proposals to help the Iban community. I suggest therefore that the RM490 million be diverted to Sarawak to help the Ibans rather than establishing a sports academy in a foreign land.

The not-so-new prime minister says no more mega-project. We had to cancel the crooked bridge because the government did not do its homework. It did not get the agreement of the Singapore government. We have, what appears, to be a RM1.1 billion bill to pay and yet not get a bridge, crooked or scenic, or otherwise.

Now it looks like the government is embarking on another foolish mission, this time to build a crooked sports academy in the UK. The deputy prime minister appears to have given the go-ahead without any agreement from the UK government. Already a figure of almost half a billion ringgit has been quoted as the cost for the said academy.

We have not been told of any real good benefit such an academy would bring forth. Apart from the rather silly reasons of allowing our athletes to acclimatise for 'cold sports' and to be near or to in a place of doubtful sporting excellence, are there any real good reasons?

If there aren't any, then we should not be having such a sports academy. What is worrying is whether, like the crooked bridge, the government has committed us to building the said academy already.

Will we taxpayers end up (like before) facing a situation where we have to cough up more than half a billion ringgit and be left without the said academy?

Is it likely that the UK government would allow it to be turned into a Malaysian sports academy? The answer is pretty bloody obvious.

Anonymous said...

We see a lot of problems reported in the news which seems to happen only in Bolehland. Malaysia and Singapore inherited the British administration system and the rule of law.

Until many years after independence, there were systems of public tenders in awarding government projects to contractors. There were proper procedures for the government professionals to evaluate tenders, and those which were deemed to have the best value for money would be selected.

The departments concerned acted for the interest of the government and made sure that government funds, whether from natural resources or taxpayers were properly spent.

In the name of efficiency, the tender system was suspended in the 1980s. That allowed subjective judgments for awarding contracts, and corruptions mushroomed. Further, in the name of NEP, the only check for contracts seemed to be that the awardees must be malays.

That facilitated money politics although not necessarily in cash term.

Even before NEP, scholarship awards from the state and federal governments were mostly for the malays, who were selected from among the best in the group. There were also non-malays scholarship awardees but fewer in number. Now……….

Before NEP, students were accepted to university courses based on their entry qualifications even though malays who did not meet the entry requirements were also accepted. There was no variation in passing mark to graduate from the universities. After NEP……….

Before NEP, we saw lecturers and professors of various nationalities and skin colors, now……….

It may be argued that the more the non-malays voice against the NEP, the more the malays are convinced that it should be retained.

NEP proved the convenient cover for corruption. Without the NEP, there will be no cover for corruption, no push factor for brain drain, no wastage of government revenue, a more attractive place for investors, a more conducive environment for business activities, and the income level of the people would rise.

It would be difficult to convince the malays that Singaporeans are on average as intelligent as we are in Malaysia, but on average, Singaporeans has 6 times our earning power.

Yes, it is on average, meaning that people in the same job function should be getting on average that many times our income. The difference there was no rampant corruption in Singapore whereas in Malaysia, corruption has been institutionalised.

Is Malaysia ruled by gangsters? Though we have our own rules, we have to submit to "their" rules if we want to live peacefully. Malaysia = no hope!

Again I say, God is fair. Other countries have natural disasters like volcanoes, earthquakes, etc. We have our Ketuanan Melayu to destroy us all. Do they care? They are busy storing up riches, and can easily fly away to paradise.

A very sad situation for Malaysia, a beautiful country runs by imbeciles. If I had a magic wand I would like to banish the whole lot in our government and invite Singapore to govern Malaysia. That way we can be one of the economic giants.